First World Problems – Opinion

“First World Problems” a term I often use when I see someone complaining about stuff that I think to be trivial. Sometimes, it could be a broken iPhone (shocker) or missed bus (horror) stuff that carries no life changing qualities. But I’ve also found myself saying it and hashtagging it when I hear or see something I consider to be “not a real problem”. But who am I to decide that something is not a real problem? 

I believe it’s ok to complain. It’s good to vent. If we think that a problem is too small too share and we bottle it up, that’s when we have issues. 

Obviously, we should always count our blessings and be grateful for all we have. But, it is wrong to shame ourselves and others for wanting to share, no matter how small we may deem it to be. 

Studies have shown that venting reduces bad emotions. The more you expose about yourself and how you feel, the better your mood will be. Realizing someone else has the same problem as you, instantly makes you feel better, you realize you are not alone. 

Other studies conducted have found that sharing allows us to look at a problem more rationally and find a way of solving it. If we make more of an effort to support each other, the world could be a much happier place. 

Nothing is more beneficial than discussing a problem out loud, it helps you to see it more clearly. It will help you to be more objective and think of solutions you hadn’t thought of. 

I know from my own personal experiences that deciding who to talk to can be half the battle. Friends and family are always a great source of support and comfort. Counselling can also be life changing, not only does it give you a place to share and vent but you can learn ways of coping and what you say won’t leave the room. 

All in all, sharing is most definitely caring, no matter how big or small the problem may seem. Never feel alone. There is always a friendly ear. 

Let me know what you think in the comments below, or if you would like to contact me there are details in my about page. 

Kellie 

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It’s Ok To Be Sad

Recently I’ve been thinking a lot about being happy. What makes me happy, how to control your own happiness and helping others be happy. After lots of thinking, writing, reading and watching I started to think about being sad…. But not in a sad way.

I know that I spend a lot of time concentrating on making myself and the ones I love happy, and happiness is fantastic!! However, I’ve realized that it’s ok to be sad and talk about being sad and not worry about bringing anyone else down because you’re sad. Now, I’m not talking about long term sadness, but the odd hour or day here and there.

Laughing is fantastic, I laugh every day, people comment on how much I laugh. But, I also think that crying is very therapeutic. Bottling it up is the worst thing you can do, it’s ok to let the tears flow and release the emotions. It’s good for your soul.

Being sad is nothing to be ashamed of. We are all guilty of saying “I’m fine” when someone asks how we are even if we’re holding back tears. It’s good to talk, someone you love and trust will always be there to listen and talk things through. A problem shared is a problem halved.

Accepting that’s it’s ok to be sad sometimes is a really positive thing, in my opinion. A little face leak never hurt anyone.

Being as happy as we can be should always be our number one priority, but understanding that life isn’t always glitter and smiles is a must.

Let me know your thoughts in the comments below.

Kellie

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10 Things That Make Me Smile

We all know that being happy makes you smile, but did you know that smiling makes you happy? It is scientifically proven that even forcing a smile triggers endorphins that instantly lift your mood. Smiling also lowers stress and anxiety, studies have shown that smiling during stressful situations lowers your heart rate and gives you a more neutral facial expression.

It also makes you more attractive to others, as a simple smile suggests that you are more personable and out going. Even better, a grin on your face can strengthen your immune system by making your body produce more white blood cells that help you fight illnesses.

With all this heart warming information in mind I decided to make a list of 10 things that put a smile on my face. So here we go

1) Friends and Family – Nothing makes me happier that spending time with the people I love most in the world. Whether it’s stuff as simple as eating fast food with friends, watching television with my boyfriend or playing cards with my family, it will instantly put me in a great mood.

2) Music – One thing I could not live with out. Listening to one of my favourite songs and singing a long is so therapeutic. It gets rid of stress and makes me feel as light as a feather. If you are ever feeling low or anxious, try it!!!!

3) Days Off – Not setting an alarm and spending most of the day in pyjamas, BLISS! Watching television, listening to the radio and reading a good book. Doing what I want when I want. Nothing clears my head more.

4) Meditating – The most relaxing and satisfying past time in the world, in my opinion. Nothing beats getting Zen, it leaves you feeling fresh and ready to take on the world.

5) Kindness – Whether someone has been kind to me, or I have seen someone being kind it always brightens my day. It costs nothing and I believe it can change slowly change the world.

6) Animals – I love all kinds of animals. My dog Sam and cat Minky are like members of my family. They are so funny and loveable, it’s impossible to be grumpy when they’re around. Even YouTube videos of animals always make me giggle.

7) Confidence – I love when I feel confident in my self or something I do and it warms my soul when I see someone else feeling the same.

8) Togetherness – Seeing people stick up for themselves or someone else. It’s so positive to know that someone’s there for you and it’s important to also be supportive.

9) Summer – It’s bright until late, it’s mostly sunny, music festivals, BBQ’s, cocktails, clothes, the beach what’s not to love? Everyone is always happier and there is never a dull moment.

10) Contagious Laughter – Proper belly laughs make me happy for days, I love it! I firmly believe that a fit of the giggles can heal anything.

There you have it, a very simple list of things but important and positive none the less. Comment below and let me know what makes you smile.

Kellie

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Get To Know Me Tag – Just For Fun

I love reading get to know me posts on blogs so I have decided to do one. Nothing too indept, but you’ll learn a little bit more about me.
25 Get to Know Me Q’s
1. What is your middle name?: Mary Jackie Catherine. They all have special meaning to me

2. What was favorite subject at school?: History and English.

3. What is your favorite drink?: Pepsi and red bull

4. What is your favorite song at the moment?: The Griswolts – 16 Years

5. What is your favorite food?: Noodles and Pizza

6. What is the last thing you bought? Chocolate, Yummy!!!

7. Favorite book of all time?: The Carrie Diaries

8. Favorite Color?: Piiiiiiiiiink

9. Do you have any pets?: I have a cat, Minky and a dog called Sam.

10. Favorite Perfume?: My favorite perfume is Amor Amor
11. Favorite Holiday?: Scouts trip to Walse when I was 14. The best memories, with the best people

12. Are you married?: Not yet

13. Have you ever been out of the country, if so how many times?: Yes!! Can’t count how many

14. Do you speak any other language?: Nope

15. How many siblings do you have? 1 older brother.

16. What is your favorite shop?: H&M

17. Favorite restaurant?: Gormet Burger

18. When was the last time you cried?: About an hour ago! I’m a serious cry baby. It’s good to cry. Let it out

19. Favorite Blog?: Anything that’s honest and relatable

20. Favorite Movie?: My favorite movies are Beaches and Grease. I love Ted and abything musical.

21. Favorite TV shows?: I love TV!!! Big Brother, Soaps, Friends, Scrubs, Family Guy. Too many to name

22. PC or Mac?: PC

23. What phone do you have?: IPhone 5

24. How tall are you?: 5’6″

25. Can you cook?: Yes, I can cook 🙂

Kellie

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Don’t Judge Me Challenge – Opinion

Another day another “challenge” drowning out the vines and memes in our timelines. Recently, we’ve seen people summoning demons with the Charlie Charlie Challenge and swollen lips and faces with the Kylie Jenner Challenge. This time, it’s the turn of the Don’t Judge Me Challenge. The challenge encourages social media users to post videos of themselves with fake imperfections, in an attempt to rid the world of body shaming. The short videos first show users with blemishes such as acne and unibrows drawn on their faces and then changes to them looking beautified and selfie ready. As always, the craze has split public opinion.

So, here’s what I think!! If this is meant as an attempt to stop body shaming, why draw attention to the fact that for some these “imperfections” can’t simply be drawn on and washed off. For me, it is body shaming at its worst. All this challenge does is poke fun at certain physical attributes.

I love to see people using social media to raise awareness and money for different causes. But this challenge, like many before it, has fallen flat on its cyberspace face!!!

Kellie

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Hello world!

Hello world and welcome to the very first post on the very new Hopeful Heartbeats. On this blog I will be discussing my life and sharing my opinion on all the stuff that happens in this crazy old world. I decided to start writing a personal blog because I have always really admired people who are able to share very personal stuff online, it seems very therapeutic and I wanted to join in.

I’m hoping to post as often as I can and I hope you, whoever you are, enjoys reading as much as I’ll enjoy sharing

Kellie

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